By: Rashmi Negi

The concept of “consent” has been undervalued for too long. Consent usually means a person is voluntarily permitting another person to do something. When it comes to intimate relationships, consent must be explicitly given.

However, people still debate over consensual sex and sexual assault. Society draws a thin line when two people are intimately involved with each other, and in the process, if one person does not explicitly say “no,” some people will accept it as a “yes.” A person may not directly say “no” for many reasons, such as fear or a desire to please another.

Silence or an unclear answer is in no way an absolute “yes” or a positive affirmation. How these words are perceived, especially in an intimate relationship, is crucial.

Be Mindful of Boundaries

Consent means respecting boundaries and never making assumptions in any situation. Every individual has the right to their own body and to freely make choices about it. Everyone has the right to live and be comfortable in their intimate relationships. In a healthy relationship, two people always look out for each other and have a mutual respect. Understanding each other’s boundaries around physical and sexual activity is crucial (Respect + Sex, n.d.).

It is essential to respect each other’s space and comfort in the moment. Being able to talk about what you want and do not want is highly important. The boundaries created by each individual must be respected.

No Means “No,” Not “Yes,” or even “Maybe.”

A respectful sexual relationship is based on a solid understanding of each other’s boundaries. Listening to what the partner wants and what they don’t needs utmost attention, including checking in before, during, and after sexual activity (Respect + Sex, n.d.). Privacy is crucial as well, so shutting down all devices and respecting each other’s space is vital. Remember, a “no” means “no.”

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Source:
Respect + Sex. (n.d.). Love Is Respect. https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/respect-sex/