By: Eileen Shea It’s not uncommon for abuse victims and survivors to stay silent, even after they’ve escaped their tormentors because of the layered fear that exists in sharing their stories. Will they be seen as weak to have allowed the abuse to happen? Will they be seen as needy for asking for help? Will...
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How To Be There For Someone
By: Whitney Derman Being truly there for someone is not a one-size-fits-all package. It can take very different approaches depending on who needs you and the situation. When consoling someone, it is best to use the 90% rule, meaning you listen 90% of the time and talk maybe 10% of the time (Brown, 2020). This allows the...